Why did you ask your d's IN FRONT OF YOUR WIFE, whether they'd gone to church??
Oh wait, I know. To make her look bad again!!! Don't BS us. We know your motives. If the answer had been yes, you'd have said to us, if not HER, "Well gee, how can she go to church and be such a sinner?" But the answer was better in your eyes b/c you got to shake your head in disbelief, "oh the agony!!" Good grief!
Yes Kevin you are still blaming her and as far as HER PRIDE...please....look in the mirror. I am surprised she comes into the apartment at all.
Smack Smack....stop thinking about her for God's sake, or for your d's sake or yours....please.
Try ONE idea that CG suggested with the thought stopping...just ONCE!!
So you can control the things you say and the things swimming around in the mind of yours. Sometimes I wonder how much insight you really have into yourself. If your w is half as intuitive as you say, she saw right through you as we do. And she resented it b/c she does not have amnesia. Your changes are "you don't drink" and as far as she can tell, that's it. And here you go on and on about the church going. PLEASE stop talking about it!
TO her, it's hypocritical, judgmental, self righteous, AND I can see why she'd feel that way! What was your goal in asking about church, right then and there while your w was still there? Be honest Kevin. It was to shame her, which somehow to you, means that she'll come back?? OR that you'll get to feel more "right"....neither makes any sense to her.
You still tell her all the things you are doing as if she's concerned or she's your buddy and she's usually polite enough to answer and say "cool"...but when she's not, it surprises you.... (Btw, why buy a house if your job is NOT yet permanent? Is it still a temp job? Aren't you a tad premature buying a home then? )
So, two steps forward, one back. Keep on keeping on but try more new things in your interactions. FWIW, I am thrilled you don't feel so hopeless anymore. That's a big thing.
Congrats on that. (( j ))
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