Ya know what I would do? Although I would be ready with the short list of "dealbreakers" I asked you about on 7/8, I would just ask him "So, where is your thinking at these days?" --
. . . and shut up and let him talk.
Expect nothing; GIVE nothing, and just LISTEN.
Cuz here's the problem: if you come out leading the convo, guns blazing, with a list of A, B, C, D, E, F and G, guess what he's going to say, if he wants to have any chance with you at all?
"OK, I'll do A, B, C, D, E, F and G."
Now is not a time for close-ended questions, but just one or two very good OPEN-ended questions like:
"So, where is your thinking at these days?"
or,
"What are your intentions regarding our marriage?"
Others may disagree, but that's what I would do. I would want to know where my wife's head was at.
