My question to you would be whether you want to pursue this path whether or not she goes to Retro? If she went to retro, I don't know how you would assess how long you want to give it to see if it "takes". Others probably far more familiar with that.
It's an interesting idea to pursue Retro and Mediation in parallel. This would ensure that when we are going through Retro we both have a very clear idea of the consequences associated with the alternative.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
