oh and I understand (only to a degree though) the highwire act you are having to play about forwarding on the childrens comments to you involving his return to the home.
I would not advise adding any more fuel to that fire right now.
Dan is in the stew pot atop Bugs Bunny's blazing campfire right about now. I am rather certain. And the only one feeling good about it is Bugs Bunny since his butt was kept from the dinner table as Hazzenfeffer or however that spelling is.