So glad you are feeling better and your transportation is sorted out. Awesome!
You know you spoke the truth in your email. I am sure he is blind to that. I feel as if Dick only wants power over those in his sphere of control. What he doesn't realise is, that this 'power' will run out. He cannot control everyone forever, and one day he will lose the very people he wants to keep the most. His choice, his foolishness. He will no doubt even lose the new wife eventually. ("No passion so effectually robs the mind of all its powers of acting and reasoning as fear." Edmund Burke (1729 - 1797)) I would guess your XH is a fearful man under his bluster and that if he doesn't keep everything in check and control and going his way, his whole universe will fall apart. How sad.
You may have to move to CA to overcome this bump, although having family there has never been a factor in his life before, has it? (Until he needed your S to take care of one of them.) Your being in CA may be when his house of cards will come tumbling down. New judge you see --- one he can't control.
In the meantime, here are some quotes that I hope will give you courage and forbearance:
"When you meet your antagonist, do everything in a mild and agreeable manner. Let your courage be as keen, but at the same time as polished, as your sword." Richard Brinsley Sheridan (1751 - 1816)
"I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It's when you know you're licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what." Harper Lee (1926 - ), To Kill a Mockingbird, 1960
"Courage is being scared to death - but saddling up anyway." John Wayne (1907 - 1979)
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
