There's not a lot to be done about it now, but just thoughts for future reference...
My H had 2 affairs in the past 7 years, one short-term, one long-term. I still wanted/want him b/c he is the father of my children and I love him. However, he made valid complaints/comments several times in the past several years, which I dismissed as trivial. After all, he had wounded me so greatly, who was he to complain about small things? One of the reasons he left this time was because he said I did not RESPECT his concerns. Respect is HUGE for men, or so I have read in a dozen different relationship books!
Anyway he was upset that I took the children to church and didn't ever bring tissues (son has raging allergies). I thought it was silly for some reason so I never did bring tissues. I decided if he thought it was important he should do it. I would put off refilling my son's allergy medications and he would go two days without sometimes, which led to bad colds for him. H would get upset and I would get defensive. But then put it off again, several times...Anyway I could go on but the thing is no one thing was particularly major, but the fact that he would voice concern and I blew him off repeatedly was a major blow b/c it was viewed as total disrespect...
If you want cats that is fine, but if he doesn't and is not willing to budge then I guess that is where you stand on things. I know it is about a lot more than that though....
