Hey Shocked. Ok. There you have it. Now, you have to decide if you can recover from that. I think you can. Millions of couples do and have stronger marriages in the end when they do recover. Are you ok with that? My H did have a full blow EA and there was some physical contact with her, kisses or an "eigth grade hook up" as I call it. Does it make me sick? You betcha. Is it something I can come to terms with? Yes, I can. But not everyone is able to do that and I understand.
I was told by a good friend "You have to proceed as if he did cheat on you, that he did have sex with someone else. If you can forgive that, then you can move forward. If not, then stop now."
I am able to move forward because my H did these things when we were officially separated. Granted, it makes me sick because we are still married, but like I told my H last night "I believe all of this happened for a reason and that reason was to get my attention because a year ago, I wasn't hearing you when you tried to tell me you were unhappy."
And it's true, I didn't hear him, not even once when he tried to reach out to me. That's my crappy part in all of this, how we got here.
What is your next step? And what is your outline, your plan in genenral here?
