Her word means diddly-squat right now -- she's lied to you, repeatedly, and she's going to keep ON lying to you. I say that not to judge -- we each have our own flaws -- but just as a simple FACT that you need to keep at your forefront as you deal with her.
They also usually will admit to one level LESS than what the truth is:
- "inappropriate friendship or feelings" = "full-blown Emotional Affair" (EA)
- "we've never been physical" = "full-blown Physical Affair" (PA), or sometimes it had BECOME physical, but they've temporarily cooled it, either voluntarily or due to outside pressure
As guys, we need to come to grips with "it's just sex." It's amazing, but only men will say "well, it's JUST an EA; so long as it's not a PA" and then we fall to pieces when we find out it got physical.
I did.
Ask any woman. Ask the women on this board. "Just an EA"??? A deep emotional attachment is MUCH more devastating to a woman than a one- or a two-night stand that really IS "just sex."
I'm not trying to hurt you with this, but rather want you to try to prepare your heart if you find out more about the physical stuff.
