Well, keep on doing what Sandi and PDT and SG suggest - I consider them the experts...

Things will take time. Take some time for yourself, too. Good job on the weekend. I think I would have made at least some primitive contact on my anniversary day as well, rather than letting it go unnoticed. At least you didn't call her 12 times or something - so good job on that.

Take care, things will get better. It's hard to see that right now, I know.

Mentally prepare for next week. Remember, don't do things that will appear unattractive to her. Advice to me was "treat her like you would a treat good friend at work" - that does seem to work ok for me.

Hang in there!


Me: 46
W: 46
M: 9.5 yrs
D4, D9
D filed by her 11/3/08
Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09
Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09
W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09
3rd Bomb 9/2/09