Fire's burning out...just smoldering

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Things got worked out.....MIL called OW and told her. OW called H and yelled at him for spending the money she gave him for daycare. OW called MIL to tell her that he was paying it that day. MIL called me to let me know it was being taken care of. H texted me nasty messages because BOTH his MOMMIES yelled at him and he was pissed that I involved other people.

The conversation:

S: U NEED TO STOP TELLING MY PARENTS [censored] ITS NOT ANY OF THEIR BUSINESS U REALLY STARTING TO PISS ME OFF EVERYTHING IS BETWEEN U AND I NO ONE ELSE

Me: U left me no choice. U don’t communicate w/me or let me know whats going on. U leave me hanging out to dry and getting the heat from Karen – all you had to do was call her

S: I tried and she was not there the last 2 days

Me: I will do WHATEVER IT TAKES to make sure our daughter is taken care of even if it pisses you off. SHE IS THE PRIORITY. If you don’t want me to go to them then u need to work with me. All I need from you is some cooperation that’s it. And, for you to handle your share. U have made my life so difficult in so many ways. I just need some help with our daughter

S: I told you it would be paid and I know it has to be paid so quit telling everyone our [censored] business [censored] will be take care of. You FUCKEN HATED IT WHEN I TOLD OUTSIDERS OUR BUSINESS WHEN WE WERE MARRIED NOW UR DOING IT. SHE IS OUR DAUGHTER NO ONE ELSE MAKES DECISIONS ABOUT HER.

Me: How can WE make decisions together if you refuse to coparent with me? I can’t ask you to do anything for her without you having to check with someone else first. So, please don’t lecture ME about US being the only ones to make decisions for her. I will NOT involve your parents if you will communicate clearly with me and stop ignoring my request for help with Kendall. Deal?

S: And how have I ignored you request for help?

Me: I am asking for you to help me raise our daughter as well as possible under the circumstances. I try to involve you as little as possible because I know you don’t like it. But sometimes I need to. I ask you questions and you don’t answer. Like this…..U just kept saying “I’ll take care of it”, but never when. And, all the while I am the one getting hammered by Karen and the teachers. Not fair to me, Steve. I have begged you from the beginning to just help me raise her even if its from a distance. Just be a part of her life. She loves and needs you.

S: I am. I can’t talk to her over the phone right now cuz she cant talk.

Me: She still knows your voice, Steve. But I understand it may be difficult for you to call. I just don’t want her to ever lack for anything. I am trying my best to give her a great life. I have to go back to work. Please just work WITH me and not against me. And, communicate with me. I promise not to involve you more than I absolutely have to.

S: We’ll see about that

Me: I have no desire to involve you more than necessary. You can be as much in her life as YOU want. I don’t tell you about her life unless you ask me, anymore. I learned my lesson

S: I’m telling you to STOP involving outsiders

Me: I’m going to do what I need to do in order to take care of Kendall’s needs if I think its warranted. I don’t talk about you to your Mom anymore because, frankly, there’s nothing to talk about. Have a good weekend.



Other than that, had a great weekend swimming and BBQ'ing.