K..I'm so sorry I missed your news, I'm thinking of you. We didnt tell my Nan when she was very poorly, she was scared too, I guess its for the best. I'm sorry you're family are having to go through this, sending you love.
As for H...I said the same to bf this weekend, it doesnt matter what the other person thinks, or what their reaction might be, just do what you feel in your heart and is best for you... so if you want to cry and break down and vent your frustration in front of him, then why not? Do it, no matter if he cant 'handle it', or help, it may just help you. "Better out than in" as we say in the UK!
Love and hugs to you, speak soon, Al xx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread