Thanks Sandi. I knew from reading your posts that you would have some great insight. You have basically hit the nail on the head with everything. The grass is greener concept, W self esteem, W depression, W sex drive,
As far as my W in IC. I do see that she is getting better in some areas with her self esteem. She does talk to me more and more about what her and her C are talking about. Self esteem, feeling "whole", dealing with guilt, her parents, etc.
She has an appt. next week for medication.
As far as us and MC. We have only been twice together. I went twice without her (and I think that aggravated her). I'm not sure we are going again (at least to the same one). The first time we went, she blasted me and said that:
She felt like I was her 3rd child. She thought that I was a "nice, docile man." She didn't trust me with money. She'd rather live a life alone with the kids.
The second time together (which was last week):
She told the MC that she went to talk to a D lawyer.
The MC asked me what I thought about that. I said I told her that I couldn't stop her or fight her from doing that but that I disagree with it and I would fight for our marriage.
She said she doesn't know who I am anymore. She questioned me several times why I didn't change sooner in the R. She says that I act like this is not real and we are not going to get a D and that I act like I don't live in reality right now. She says that I act like she is going to come back to me.
