Thanks for your comments on my thread Bonny. I came over to read up on your sitch and I can definitely relate to your experiences. I think the changes in my sitch have been incredibly slow and I know they could come to a halt at anytime. However, I think reading the 5 Love Languages was a turning point for me. It helped me to really reflect on the ways I could show him my care without really pursuing. It helped me to stop being critical and defending myself which usually had disastrous results. It's hard to be calm and relaxed when you're feeling anxious to make a good impression but I think that's a key as well. I had to make a conscious effort to pull back and not drop what I was doing just because he arrived.
