If his Credit cards contact you, you can tell them to stop calling and they have to. I know a guy who stopped paying his altogether, he is convinced that since its unsecured debt, there is nothing that they can do, but Ive seen them sue before, so Ill be interested to see how it goes for him!

I think that I would talk to your L too, just to make sure that you arent going to compromise your situation at all by sending it. Will your H not voluntarily help you pay for it? Can you just give him the bill? Hasnt he, in the past, been pretty vocal about wanting your D to contiue her therapies?

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...