I give the kids the phone and Nathan talks to Dan but Sydney is in her goofy mood and won't get on the phone. Fine.
Then I am getting them their books/pajamas ready while they are watching the movie (Parent Trap). I was going to turn it off but they were enjoying it. If anyone has not seen it, it is twins whose parents divorced when they were babies, and each parent took a baby and called it even--because THAT happens! The girls meet each other and plot to get their parents back together, but the dad is supposed to marry someone else...
I said something about how that was silly, Daddy and I would never split the two of you up we will always have both of you (in case that set off any worries for them). And Nathan said, "Yeah, and daddy would NEVER marry someone else, either."
Then the parents/exes were on a ship for dinner, arranged by the twins. Nathan said, "If you and dad get remarried with me and Sydney we would have fun going on a ship wouldn't we?"
Stuff like that makes me want to pummel Dan. I just don't get it. Our pastor has seen us together, he thinks our situation is fixable, but of course requires Dan's efforts and change along with mine. Nathan's counselor told us to get MC because she saw how 'connected' we were. Just a few weeks ago she said that when she talked to Dan without me it was apparent he was still attached to me even if he didn't live with me, etc. And obv. the kids would be thrilled if we got back together.
I do NOT want us to get back together for any of those reasons, that isn't my point. You can't stay together b/c the pastor, the counselor, and the kids want you to. It is just so frustrating because he knows exactly what it would take for us to be together and be happy and he refuses to attempt it.
So, due to his selfishness and stubborn pride, I get to deal with the fall out with my kids while he is half the continent away...
