I found these last few entries wonderfully thought provoking! For me, My H wants a divorce but does not want to be separated - sort of. I could go on and on...about the contradictions, but at this point, I don't even think about it. Its too confusing to buy into his thought process.
To me, it helps to think of myself single....for my sake. I think to wait for them to give us a cue - is what gets us in trouble.
Hopeful, I would say that you will get to a point where you will know exactly what you want to do. You gals all told me that after my H left from his visit and wanted the D, but wanted to start fresh! And, you were right, I did.
Be patient with yourself. No need to have it all figured out now. I will tell you that there came a time when every time I walked thru the door, my eyes would go to the D papers and the feeling that I should just sign - was overwhelming. I still didn't act on it for like 2 weeks after it started.
One thing that is so difficult is that there is no right or wrong move really. At the end of the day, don't do things to manipulate or control him or his feelings.
ACT based on what is good for YOU.....Irrespective of him coming back or not! Hard to do........and hard to decipher your own motives....so, just take your time.
