I feel like I am operating in a vacuum

[Gardener]

I really miss spending time with my best friend. I know that I had a lot of shortcomings as a husband. It is so painful, after four months of this, not to be able to share some of the things that I have learned.

cville, I hear you. Man, do I hear you. Telling her what you've learned will probably mean little to. Showing her? Better. Sustained over time? Best.

My wife is not ready to talk or listen. So I choose to not waste energy on something she is not receptive to right now. As I said on givingitmyall's thread a few days ago:

It also has helped my resolve to realize that when my wife finally wants to discuss our relationship - and only then - it will indicate that she is at the point of wanting or being willing to hear what I have to say, too.. And not until then.