whenever I come through here I've been reading a lot of the more seasoned DB'ers talking about respect in relation to love. I saw a reply in another post where you talked about your H becoming less passive and how much your respect grew for him once that change was made. I believe I could be a lot like him in a lot of aspects (as in the way he was). I do know your H told you that if you D him he was done. I do believe that is a boundary stance I might have to take with my W if it ever comes down to that. I've also been thinking about other 'hard' conversations I may have to make soon regarding other issues. For instance I believe my parents are entering the latter stage of their life and I really want to have a long, hard conversation about getting our ducks in a row. You may or may not know that I haven't really initiated any convo with my W for a while and while I hope it doesn't reinforce any ideas I may be avoidant I am actually doing it for my own personal detachment regarding our sitch. Anyway, I would love to hear about the changes your H made btw. I would love a basis of comparison. Talk about it here if you wish or maybe swing by my thread. Talk to you later!
