Well, it seems that H had a great IC session and insight about what set him off this week and he has taken responsibility for it all.
IC gave us a way to view it as "like a slip" - though he didn't drink. H understood that he got temporarily stuck feeling rejected and then resorting to thoughts of "sour grapes" - or why bother to hang in there if it is always going to be difficult.
He came out of it and I could see what the IC was saying b/c I had thought of it myself - so I didn't over react at first. IC kept reminding him and us that if we had 8 weeks of things going well when we couldn't put two weeks together in three years - then we have figured out what to do.
Made sense to me. Today we had another incident but recovered within minutes. Had a good day at the pool... later H tells me that he was feeling really hopeful when he saw us work through earlier situation. It was the first time he worked through a resolution to a situation and compromised - and said it felt great.
So it feels like progress again. MC starts next week - H made an appt for us. IC feels good about the changes being made already (he started us on MC before but H didn't f/u b/c of the drinking)
The move is tenative - based on how the MC sessions go over the next few weeks and dependent on things working out. H wants it back on - I asked for "wiggle room" to make sure we will be successful. H agreed.
