GH31 - Dilemma with my pregnant wife

[GH31]

Hi Saffie,

Update.

I have had a great weekend. I went out on Friday night and got in very late so Saturday was a peaceful time to catch up on chores, run errands, relax and play chess in the evening. On Sunday I went for a drive up the coast, caught up with a good friend for a few hours in the afternoon and went for a barbecue in the late afternoon/evening. W's two younger brothers and her youngest sister showed up to express their support for me and disbelief at W's latest antics, saying what she's doing is disgusting.

Yesterday morning I had 5 missed calls on my mobile from W who rang from OM's house. She left 2 messages to say that OM had come home to find her in his apartment and they had had a huge argument - she'll be coming home in the next few days. She said "OM and I had a huge argument and we can't be friends. I had wanted us to be friends but it isn't going to happen, I can't take a trip to Germany when I am all cut up inside so I'm going to come home in the next couple of days".

She tried calling me again later when I was hanging out with a friend but I didn't pick up, then tried again later in the evening and left another message. My sister and another friend mentioned she had written on my Facebook wall but I haven't looked. She doesn't seem to care slightly that she was ringing me on OM's nickel - I'm sure he's thrilled about that.

I have not checked my email to see if she's written although I suspect she has and I have not replied to any of her communication. In fact I was perfectly enjoying my Sunday afternoon until she tried to ring.

BobbiJo, it has only been after she's gone that I realise just how much better life is when she is not around. I knew it intellectually but couldn't feel it until the last few days. I also feel utter shame for not cutting loose so far and for being an hysterical mess caught like a deer in the headlights.

Flynny, I am a cultured boy with a love of literature, music, chess as well as travelling and any activities which induce a "rush" like climbing, surfing etc.

W is paying for all of this with her own money that she has earned and her credit card. One thing I'm speaking to the lawyers about is to take measures to ensure that I'm not liable for the debt in any way. I'm told there are measures I can take in Australia to ensure that is so.

Thanks very much for your support so far.