I personally think you should be laser focused on your agreement regarding the kids. Get that settled and then you can tackle the other stuff.
Sound logic! Thanks!
Our agreement with the kids is that we'll share them 50/50...and we have been. And it's really been OK for the most part, under the circumstances. The only flies in the ointment have been regarding taking them on vacation. She doesn't seem to like it when I take them on nice vacations. And she doesn't like it that my work hours allow me to spend more time with the kids when I have them, than her work hours allow her to spend with them when she has them!
Too f'in bad and you are not going to fix this by being "flexible." My d*ckhead H has my kids at a mansion and is basically going to outspend me and wow my kids and he's the one who left. Too bad for me. She's going to have to get it sooner or later.
I still think you need to figure out what is reasonable and stop indulging in the other stuff.
Boundaries that are healthy and reasonable are not punishment or retribution, they are necessary (that's me learning something here :o).
