Thnaks for your advice....I know I have been in this for over 2yrs. now and it really is getting better.....I do have a job fulltime job and while at work I stay very busy so i dont have time to think about him.. And here lately it feels go good to have long periods of time not thinking about him.I know I sound pathetic in here but I really am not... I do have a life and doing things with my daughter I never did while we were together. He never calls either of our kids and they are very hurt by this... he always wants them to call him first.....control thing I guess. I know in my heart that he will never be the same man before this happened...but I have lots of good memories, and a history together. I guess I come across as me being stuck as I was in the beginning and I come here to write what i feel kinda a like journaling.....but thank you for your response. The reason I say he was acting is because maybe he never got over her after all told me " all the old feelings came back when I saw her again" that sounds like to me it never really ended for him in his heart.I guess I am just being stupid...but really I have gotten a life i.e. we went camping for the first time in my life it was so much fun....I go out of town when I want to to visit family or whatever....gosh I must sound horrible sorry if I came across that way I gues it sounds like I am waiting by the phone or something...sorry I gave that impression...thanks again..