Hi HHH, I was just about to post that Sara probably knows much better than I, then I saw her post smile

My 2 cents is that I agree with her - I think when 1 spouse goes in with a closed mind, nothing much can be expected. Having said that, I dragged my W there.

I don't know, but I think in your place, I might say something like "Look, it's giving us a chance to communicate better. If a miracle happens and we think we may have a chance, this would have been so worth it. if you still want a D, at least we can talk through things better even if I still want to stay and try.".

Hoping things work out for you ...

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.