How am I coming across as inflexible gucci! I'm trying to point out that she has them just as many days as I do! And anytime that she wants to make changes to our schedule, I'm OK with that!
Seems like you totally missed my point.
It doesn't matter what Gucci thinks or Coach thinks or anybody else on here thinks about you being flexible or inflexible.
It is what your WIFE thinks. If SHE thinks you are inflexible... Then to her you ARE INFLEXIBLE. No?
According to the way that I understand her responses to you, it seems to me that she still views you as inflexible. Yes? No?
So if she still sees you as inflexible, wouldn't it make sense to try and help her to view you as changing? It makes sense to me.
She is viewing your efforts as same old same old. That means to me that what you are doing and the way you are responding doesn't seem to be moving you in the right direction IN HER MIND. (not my mind or anybody else's mind, but HER MIND)
Personally, I would try a different approach. It may be an approach that in your mind is NOT 50-50. Get it? You may think that she is getting more from your "flexibility" than you are. However, she may then see you as being more flexible in HER MIND (not my mind or anybody else's mind) You need to find out what is flexible in HER MIND. When you find out, then you are making progress. It may take an approach that YOU feel isn't fair. Then you will know you are being flexible because you are doing it even though it isn't or doesn't seem fair to YOU? Get it?
I am not telling you what to do. If you want to stay on the path you are on, then I would guess that she will continue on her path also.
What kind of approach would you try? Could you give me an example of a response to her last E-mail that you would make...knowing what you know about me and our situation? I didn't miss your point...it's one of those 'perception is reality' issues...regardless of how irrational that 'perception' is!
Any feedback/help/responses would be appreciated.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
