I just bailed on a couple of weddings for those very reasons...
And, on the topic of "the things they say", W coached her best friend (who just got divorced from very highly paid CEO (multi-$MM dollar)) on how she should show her monthly living expenses on an "expenses affidavit" as high as possible to make sure she can get every penny from him... And she told me this for what reason? Maybe I'm just sensitive to it because she's filling out the same form herself now... Can't wait to see it...
And like most men it sounds like you're cowering in fear because you have no rights in this world because after all you are just a man
SIGH....
No one can take you to the cleaners unless you allow them to. Men need to stand up for themselves and fight for their rights and one of those right is that they are equal to their wives and if their wives want to check out of their marriages than they must also learn to live without their husbands in all aspects including financially.
Get yourself a lawyer who supports this, if your current lawyer doesn't, drop them and find another.
You want things to change, then be the change in your life that influences change in others.
Stand up, don't be afraid to speak out, be a man, you have rights, you have power, make use of it.
You would be willing to be taken to the cleaners financially by your wife but you don't want to spend money legally to defend yourself against this - either way will be expensive: one is a way you choose the other is a way that is chosen for you - if you control your life you also control making decisions in it.
Man I read a million posts like this and I say to myself, these guys just don't get it - by remaining quiet & defenseless you allow this behavior, you authorize it and then you complain about how much you were taken advantage of when in reality, you allowed it.
