question. do i tell her somethings come up and tuesday and wednesday aren't lookng like it's gonna work out at all? i
Yes that is the way to do it. Then end the conversation quickly. (be polite, but make it short so that she is left with "wondering" in her mind and don't give her time for any other comments or questions)
It is important that you don't call and confirm and you don't call and cancel the date. Hopefully she calls you and then you tell her that you "forgot" and can't because you have already made other plans Tuesday and Wednesday. Then say "sorry we will have to do it another time. Hey, I was just leaving so I will have to let you go. Talk to you later."
THEN GET OFF THE PHONE AND HOLD THE LINE. Go back and read how many times I told Pearl H to "hold the line" It is a must.
That's it We will wait for her reaction and evaluate our game plan after you have passed this test. Don't think too far ahead. We need to evaluate her response. For all we know, she could be pounding on your door wanting answers. (that would be a GOOD thing)
IF she does ask you what you are doing or who you are going with before you cut her off...... the answer is "just a friend" NOT just some friends but "just a friend" or "just a friend from work"...... after you say that you go right into "I was just leaving and can't talk, we will talk later.. ta ta.. by... (say these things happily.As if you are HAPPY TO GET OFF THE PHONE. (do not be rude. be polite, be short but be sure of yourself.....
Remember.. You are NOT trying to make her jealous. Just follow the game plan. Go out and have fun.. Laugh. Joke. Be happy.
Am I wrong, this sounds like we're creating a jealousy plot line for her to worry about you? Just curious.
I'm not saying this is wrong, if it works to create a fear of loss and for her to question that what she is doing is harming her chances it may be what's required.
