Sara, yes I am greatly encouraged and feel great about it. But I've gone through too many ups and downs, complete about turns, basically the hell that many here go through, to ever take anything for granted or to believe anything at face value again.
PDT, well I sat down with her today and we agreed to set aside the negative feelings and just look at the issue of her quitting in the most sensible way. So, she would try not to take anything as perceived attacks by me, and I'll try not to say hurtful things. We agreed to talk through feelings and other stuff another time. And we both decided to look at it as accepting she was over OM, and we just needed to move on getting all contact cut as a part of healing.
She outlined for me her stance. She will be desk bound for most of Aug to Oct. She intends to take leave from mid Nov and is due for delivery End Dec / early Jan 2010. She will be on leave for at least 4 months from then. all in all, the paid leave and other benefits will be about $80k. She asked me if it made sense to give it up for basically 3 months of the current situation. She will quit once the maternity period is over. We're still talking about it for now ...
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
