CG- thanks for the post. As I've said before, the good news for you is that you don't have kids with him so you can cut all ties eventually.
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Honestly, I still do worry about my H from time to time and how he is living and how little he will be left with but that is because I am human and not a robot. But, choices have consequences. Nobody told him to leave and not come back, that was his choice so he could carry on with his GF, so, it is what it is.
I am at a point where I am not willing to put my energy into helping H become a better person so he can go be that person with someone else. Major emotion and energy suckage.
I am going to go see a child behaviorist by myself as soon as I get some money.
S9 repeated a very inappropriate joke tonight at dinner basically about how miserable marriage is (he got it from daddy). I did ok in my response but I want to tear daddy a new a**hole. This kind of provocative stuff makes me want to get in some counseling with him though if history is any indication, he will not get it enough to really do things differently. I am not sure.
H had mentioned something in our convo earlier today about being "even" when I mentioned how hurtful he has been. On the one hand, I would like to see a professional to deal with his vindictiveness and try to move through and past it. On the other hand, I realize it is his crutch and he will not let it go unless and until he is ready.
