I had D1 today. Pick-up was a bit different. W was talkative, nice, etc. and even walked with me to my truck when D1 was clinging to her. She hooked D1 into the car seat and we chatted about nonsensical things such as the weather, etc.
She told me to have a good day, etc.
D1 and I went to the mall, then to a public library so I could read over the legal reference books while she played with toys, and then to the park so I could swing her.
W and MIL came to pick her up at the usual time... nice, friendly, asked if I had one of BIL's movies. Dunno... just can't tell what the deal is.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Sure, they were nice. They just got some big, fat BREATHING ROOM.
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Yeah I was just sort of unsure because previously she hasn't even wanted to look me in the eye.
Part of me wants to come out of the dark now and try speaking with her... but I'm going to have to research the BPD techniques so I don't throw her on the defensive.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
D1 was doing well this morning. I sat down on the window sill and she walked up next to me and backed against it like she wanted to sit on it but couldn't get up high enough. I picked her up and sat her down next to me, and she started kicking her feet.
She reached towards me wanting me to hold her and cried whenever the daycare worker got her to feed her breakfast.
W replied to my text message yesterday asking about D1 by giving me an itinerary. Normally she just replies "She's fine."
OM's car hasn't left his home in 2 weeks. Either he is having car trouble or is out of a job. Poor thing...
So... 60+ days out from a trial. Now that my emotional detachment is somewhat reasonable - should I attempt to approach W in discussing the D or should I just continue dealing through attorneys?
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
So... 60+ days out from a trial. Now that my emotional detachment is somewhat reasonable - should I attempt to approach W in discussing the D or should I just continue dealing through attorneys?
It sounds like things are going reasonably well for you lately. I think I would keep doing what you've been doing. If you're letting the Ls handle the D, then keep that up. Why mess with success? Karen
It sounds like things are going reasonably well for you lately. I think I would keep doing what you've been doing. If you're letting the Ls handle the D, then keep that up. Why mess with success? Karen
I don't know what I want at this point. I also think it is just hitting me emotionally. I haven't seen my IC in about three weeks, but I'm going to see her Thursday.
W refuses to even discuss anything. She is just hiding behind her lawyer not wanting to do anything and all her lawyer does is the same thing.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I think it's understandable, DC. You've been in "battle mode" so much, have you really given yourself time (and permission) to let things out emotionally?
I think it's understandable, DC. You've been in "battle mode" so much, have you really given yourself time (and permission) to let things out emotionally?
Only destructively. I may start preparing my gym outfits and go running in the evenings.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
