You have no control over her actions, words.. anything. She can say that SP worships 4 legged octopods and there's nothing you can do about it.
The law determines what is considered fair and equitable. And, oops, learning about what doesn't seem fair is just part of the process. Kitty and/or cocky (depending on preference) is expensive.
And why would you believe what she says? Actions over time reveal the truth. That doesn't stop the belief, hope and questioning... or the startling change in life for all.
So she's committed to divorce, having sex, annoyed by the lifetime alimony, wanting to maintain any and all relationships on a 'friendly' basis. But she has no control over the legal system.. just hopes to juggle it to her way of thinking.
For what it's worth the discomfort over being the hot topic lessens.. primarily because a newer hot topic replaces yours. Having close friends and supportive family members all with unexpected 2x4 wielding purposes is helpful, too.
Hopefully what you're learning is improving who you are as a person, allowing you to become the person you're meant to be.
Hugs for the tough times, for the times the heart is tugged because this is one huge booboo that takes time to heal regardless of the outcome.
