I am never coming back !!!!!!!!

[25yearsmlc]

IRMAC,

Hugs...what are you doing to GAL? I see that it has been 2 years so I know you must be ready for some things to change in your life. But you'll have to make it happen.

The negative feelings about aging, in the midst of being rejected, are sooo normal. Goes with this whole thing. As for the "mlc" title...well, it can help to explain some behavior if the person we loved seems very different. But it isn't much of a help as far as lessening the pain. Sometimes it gives people more hope in their situations. If your h really is acting out of character, but it has gone on for awhile, this may be who he is now. But if it's short lived, like a few months being late paying CS but getting back on track soon, that's a whole diff thing. Time will tell but you are correct, you must put the child first and not your pride or fear of making him mad (as if that would make things worse...he IS gone after all). So if he hasn't paid up, what were you supposed to do? Did you try to contact him to say, "What's up?" Do what you have to do to get CS. Do you get any other money? Was there a settlement or a home to sell? Sorry don't know your whole sitch.

Back to you and GAL, I know you are busy and it sounds as if you need the time you are home, to be with your d. I get that and agree. (Does your h see her at all?) Regardless, you do need to model, for HER and for you, that life goes on and that having a man leave, does not end your life. Someday she'll be hurt also. And she'll need to know that she'll be alright and will laugh again, and maybe love again.

So now's a great time to think about whether there are any activities you did not do that you wanted to do before, or groups to join, or subjects to learn about or classes you wanted to take (even online if need be -but getting out of the house is sooo good for you even when you don't feel like it-force yourself to do it and you will not ever regret getting off your fanny and GAL out there...life is happening and don't you want to be a part of it? YES!)
You will need to take charge of your life and get it going. No one else will.

Financially do you have a retirement plan? Are you legally div yet? What are you waiting for? I am not saying you should file, I am simply wondering how you are managing financially and if there is an advantage to waiting or filing or what you risk by not filing.

Sorry you are here...

(( j ))