Financial - We have sacrificed a lot for her to stay home with the kids. (Credit card bill is very high).
Grass is greener - She has always felt like she hasn't done enough with her life. She is not happy where she lives, wants to move to another place.
Does not respect me - says that I am a good person, but not good strong man or provider, feels like she has 3 kids (me being one of them).
We sweep problems things under the rug. Don't talk them out. Come back later in big arguments and never get resolved.
After the kids were born we stopped being good recreational partners. Did not go out on dates much, excuse was we were always strapped for money. This was the basis of our friendship. Watching movies together (we were both film minors in college).
Sex life was hurt after the children were born as well.
Communication bad - during the last couple of years. I travel a lot, didn't check in with her as much. Real short on the phone, etc.
She now says we were always better friends and that we both deserve better. She just wants me to be a friend and father now. She says she sees a life with her as primary custody parent with the children
180's Listening better Communicating better - Not blowing up during conversations. Working out, getting fit Taking better care of myself (health wise) Helping with housework Backing her up when she corrects the children Don't get on the computer much anymore Don't watch tv much anymore (unless with her)
I think she is baiting me. She keeps saying she is waiting for me to blow up or go into some major depression because she doesn't think that I can sustain having a good outlook on life and take the pressure of a D.
Recently she has mentioned that she doesn't know who I am anymore. She says I seem robotic. (It's just me trying to learn better to communicate through word of mouth and listen to her). She also says that I scare her sometimes when I talk to her.
