I have to comment on the "looks". When I had my EA, the OM was not ugly, but he wasn't that physically attractive, either. It really wasn't his looks that I was drawn to at all......it was how he responded to me and how he made me feel. That is what I don't understand about your W in why she would submit to some jerk treating her like OM does. But.....I can't understand that "mentality" of abused women b/c I have never had it or been subjected to any abuse. I can't ever see myself being mistreated like that, so I'm not much help in trying to figure her out.

If she has to rely upon you financing the trip.......I don't think you should give her one red cent to enable that adventure. If OM wants her bad enough, then HE will send her the money to go to him. If she has any brains at all, she will "know" that and expect OM to come across for her. If he doesn't, then (hoping her self-respect kicks in) she'll begin to open her eyes to what sort of person he really is. If I were in her place, my question would be why OM hasn't already come to where I was to be with me. He either doesn't have any money or he doesn't truly want her badly enough. Of course, we both know "what" he is.....so there's no surprise why he hasn't. Just want her to hurry up and have that regester in her mind!

Later,
Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!