The advice you have received from Antlers and Garndener (haven't seen gucci's posts) is dead on perfect. I would echo what they say. I've been DB'ing since April, and the last month has been about detaching. It really is the only way I know to keep your sanity in all this mess.
To respond to your post, you still use the DB techniques, and there will be times when there will be interactions. I did not go back to read your original thread (and I'm battling the beginnings of a sinus infection), but do you have kids?
Main point is that you cannot be the one to initiate contact. I know that seems counterintuitive (as does DB in general), but all that matters right now is her perception, be it right or wrong. If she perceives something you do as pursuit, it WILL turn her off. That's why you have to be careful, until you get more comfortable with YOU. That is where detaching comes in. If you place the focus of your effort on YOU (which is where it belongs), then you will find all the things Antlers and Gardener descried will be yours. You will come to the realization that no matter what, you will be ok. ADN YOU WILL. We LBS's initially feel like we are doomed b/c no one would want us, we are too old, out of shape, whatever - b/c we just took a gut shot to our self esteem - best way to hurt a man. But, with DB'ing, you will gain the most important thing in the world, your self respect and dignity. Without those, none of this will work. Really is about getting your balls back. I know it was for me.
So, get into DB mode and start doing the work. What have you read? What are you doing to work on you?
