Trusting,
It is verbal abuse, and most of us encountered it. I'm sorry he scared you. I relate as H's verbal abuse was very bad at the height of this.

He hasn't spewed for a while; may be due. I imagine that he will spew again during D proceedings.

M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D