I feel like I am operating in a vacuum

[Gardener]

Antlers, Guccci, & Gardener:
Here's my question to any and all of you- All of you are espousing the approach that is advocated in Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy of "disengaging." If you have taken that approach, what results, changes and/or improvements have you seen in your own relationships or are all of you still in the early stages where no big changes have occurred yet in your partner?

The changes have been in me. With a few hints of changes in my wife when she is with me.
I am able to see me/her/marriage more...clearly.I take care of myself physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. I dropped all that after the bomb and I weakened and ignored myself at the exact time that I needed my best, strongest, A-game me.

It is said that walkaway spouses know two things: they know their spouse and they know their spouse will never change. If my wife is paying attention - and she is, if reluctantly - she is questioning those "givens".

I have been DBing only 7 weeks now separated 8 months. Not calling her, not answering calls/emails immediately, making myself scarce, (re)connecting with old and new friends, renewing lapsed hobbies, etc. brought back life as opposed to just living. As a by-product (very important, a by-product, not a goal), she has made numerous, if small, movements toward instead of away. And has taken no action at all in 8 weeks re divorce process.

You know where I've arrived, c'ville (not completely, but damn near)?
-I'm beginning to look forward to a wonderfully different relationship with my wife when we reconcile.
-I'm beginning to look forward to a wonderfully different life if she chooses to remain on her solo journey.
-I'm beginning to look forward.*

*My very brief and natural foray into melancholia last night (on my thread) notwithstanding