Kids are a good go-between the parents when one doesn't know how to "lighten" the mood. He can play and tease with the kids and it's way of trying to pull you into it.
As a WAS, I think I mentally blocked out how deeply I hurt my H. After spending so much time here on the board, I learned from the other LBH's how bad it is for them and how that hurts their male ego and self-respect more than about anything that could happen. So, I am sure he can't face how much he's brought you pain. He is battling a war between his emotions & brain. He is not out of love with you and never has been......but he "wants" to be so it would be easier for him. I feel that you are slowing inticing him back in a R with you and one part of him wants it, but one part is still fighting it. He thinks his life would be less complicated or he would find more happiness in another R.
I know you probably get tired of people telling you not to give up, but if you will notice, I finally added something to my signature......b/c that is what I think about our R's on earth.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
