Yay!!!!! Finally a new thread.

[25yearsmlc]

Okay hold on now A/K, you don't have to know all the answers this minute.

One at a time. No kids around for the move BUT They will be warned ahead of time so they don't think that you got robbed while they were playing. Do not let h make you out to be the bad guy in front of them but KNOW That (my child c said this so I'm passing it on to you) the kids MAY now and then lash out at you rather than h b/c they don't want to alienate him and make him come around less. So on one hand the good news is that you will have them most often but the bad news is that you won't get all their best behavior. He won't get their worst either, you will. But he will miss so much.

The anger is fine under one condition, that it NOT Consume you. I think that is what you fear, so when you say "he wins, b/c of the anger", you mean b/c you are giving him too much power over how you feel about yourself and your life. So don't give him so much of that power.

These are choices he made, never forget that. NO one, NO WOMAN would allow a man to come and go as he has for months, and think it's alright. Isn't that essentially what he has "asked" of you? Regardless of why he wanted out originally, even if you were the worst wife in the world which you were NOT,

the deal NOW, as of today, is that he expects you to put up with an insane type of arrangement and you won't. Good for you.

You will come out of this alright. He has behaved like a scoundrel, or in today's venacular, a "p-o-s-" and deserves your contempt. But it only goes so far b/c when those feelings spread too much in YOU, you have to remember that you are a good person who will survive and transcend and overcome and thrive, soon. I think you will. And he is SO Not worth much energy anymore.

Why not spend your energy on what you want to create for your new life, rather than what a crappy one you put up with for too long?


So talk to the kids, prepare them. Then get them out of the house when he leaves. And stay calm in front of him if you can but if you lose it for a minute, or he tries to fob this off on you, you can say, "H, no woman in her right mind would find your behavior acceptable. So count your blessings that I speak to you and don't bad mouth you to the kids...bye now!" And do make sure you both agree Not to engage in "parental alienation" and if he does, he'll lose big time.

I do ache for you, "OUCH" and I'm sending prayers your way even if you are not a believer b/c I think God has an extra phone line just for you.
Have faith that you will see the light at the end of this. You will.
((( )))
j-