Thanks guys. I posted this in newbies and WAW to try and get some different perspective. Sorry about the double post.
Just need some good insight. It's hard to tell if she is manipulating me by pursuing me more now or if she is somewhat "waking up." Her communication with me has opened up somewhat after that first conversation about the D lawyer and I didn't fight one bit. She has asked me to do a lot more recreational things with her since that first talk. She keeps saying that she is ready for me to explode or blow up when she says these things to me and doesn't understand why I haven't yet.