Deep and Sara, Thank you so much for your thoughts and that this program was such a wonderful experience for you. I fear my marriage is just about over and he is waiting for me to 'give in'... he's not pressing papers or D yet, just living his own life without me and got a new apt downtown w a friend. I would love him to commit to going as a way for us to heal, and given how long we've been together...and that it will help is with communication regardless of the outcome. Part of me is leery giving his feelings now if this would turn things around, but it's worth a shot. I would give anything to get him there. If he says no again that he's made up his mind, do I ask if maybe if could be a 'parting gift' to me, or something?
Also, do you have any thoughts on suggesting WAS reads DR or would that not make sense?
He said he'd call me to get together before he left next Fri, but hasn't called me yet. I might reach out and see if he'll meet for coffee tomorrow... i've really backed off and not reached out to him much at all past couple months, so think this might be ok since he is leaving? he only calls now when he wants to pick stuff up from our apt or borrow our car.
I don't know what else to do. Most of my friends say to move on but I want to do anything to save my marriage... we've had a good marriage for the most part but he just graduated from business school and feels like he has this new lease on life, new friends, ego-boost, etc...it's like he's changed into a different person. he used to be so soft and kind (and i kind of wore the pants in our relationship) and now he's turned into this cold, mean person to me...I think to make the split easier for him.
Thanks for all your thoughts and if you have any other ideas suggested on R program or any other ways to get through to him, I would welcome them!
