Don't worry about if you're showing pursuing or detaching behavior.
Don't pursue and 'detach' are great advice for the LRT. And/or if you've been whining, begging, pleading.
Guess what? That's not YOU.
YOU are NOT in the LRT. And that advice will backfire for you. Your coach knows it and gave you appropriate advice.
DBing is DOING WHAT WORKS....and you have ALREADY HAD SUCCESSES. You want to build on those, NOT go with your instincts and hit the cave.
So Mr. DB Commando...you are on your way. You are very slowly rebuilding your relationship, and you must be CONSISTENT. Your wife wants to see that, she wants to make sure you won't go back to the same old same old.
Sometimes you will get advice about 'saving yourself' building yourself and your confidence first. You don't need to worry about that.....because the actions your DB Coach has given you....if you do them....will have that affect.
You are developing your relationship skills...and that makes YOU the MAN.
Your wife will see that.
And if for some reason she's not smart enough at the end of the day....you can bet other women are watching your R skills, whether you think they are or not.
Keep doing what you're doing. MORE of it.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
