I feel like I am operating in a vacuum

[cville22901]

Givignitmyall:
I read your first thread, and there are many aspects of our situations that are quite similar, especially in terms of our wive's decisions to walk away, which seems disproportionate to our perceived levels of problems within our respective marriages.

Like you, I was receiving signals, but I did not understand them or chose not to understand them. All of that is water under the bridge at this point. I get it. I need to work on my communication skills if I ever get a chance to reconcile. "if" is the question and "How" do I kick start it.

The big difference is that you and your wife are still living under the same roof, so there is some type of interaction and communication taking place. Even if it is negative, you are still in each other's lives. My problem is that we are already physically separated. I idiotically moved out to save her the hassle and expense when she said that she wanted to live alone. I should have told her how to get to the nearest Motel 6. But...I'm too nice for that.

I am trying to figure out how I can have some relatively innocuous interaction with her, like a phone call, and whether or not, even that, will be perceived as pursuing behavior. Should I just back off compeletly and sever all contact of any kind?

A couple of weeks ago, I did give her some flowers. The response was, "I like the flowers, but it's too late for flowers and greeting cards. They aren't going to work."