I kind of want to hit you over the head with a 2x4, although I think you already know all the things you said wrong. You said way too many words when talking to her about your friend. You had her eating out of your hand and could have been very mysterous......but you talked too much. I know it's hard when you want to have a very open and honest type of R with her. Being mysterous in not being "dishonest"....it's just not going into details to explain every little thing and let her think what she will. I think you saw for yourself her reaction. Maybe she was jealous...(which I think she was)...or maybe it was a control thing for her. She sees she is not there to be in charge of your life now! Ever thought about that, when you are wanting to spill your guts? Next time, don't be so wordy....(I KNOW...it's hard for me too!)
I will give you some slack b/c I believe you felt a tremdous amount of pressure to get her to give you an answer about her intentions, so you could make a decision about the job offer. However, after all you said.....she still would not offer any hope or encouragement. If it wasn't for the boys, I'd tell you to leave there so fast it would make her head spin around!! She may wait to call your bluff and see if you'll really leave her and move away. I don't know if she's thinking clearly enough to know you would stay for only the sake of the boys or not. After what you told her regarding your other job decision b/c of her, she may think you stay strickly on her account.
You have to make this decision about the job on your own. I don't think she is going to help. I realize you have to earn a living, but I sure would hate to see you end up regretting the move. I'll sure be saying a prayer for you about this decision.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
