I appreciate you being honest with us -- it will help us help you more accurately.
I'm not as concerned about you contacting OW (altho I wish you hadn't), but I wish you hadn't lied to him about it. A simple "Yes, I did -- I thought at least one of us should try to actually fight for our marraige" or some such would have been better. By denying it for so long, it makes YOU look like the guilty one, when it is HIS behavior that should be the focus here.
DON'T ANSWER HIS CALLS. DON'T let him put the exposure back on you again. If he tries, say something like the above, or even just a "I'm not going to apologize for sticking up for myself, so please don't mention it again -- this is YOUR mess, YOU clean it up."
You did a GOOD job in drawing a boundary -- one that's going to be very important to your own self-esteem moving forward. And that is "don't talk about OW to me." GOOD FOR YOU! Don't back down on that, and throw in a "It's INCREDIBLY disrespectful!" next time, too!
Ashlee, I'm not disappointed in you. You did what you felt Mama Bear needed to do. It may have been anti-DB, or a tactical mistake, but it was HONEST, and at least you're trying to fight for your marriage and your family.
As someone said above, just get back up and dust yourself off. There are a LOT of cards still left to play.
Don't back down on that, and throw in a "It's INCREDIBLY disrespectful!" next time, too!
