H goes off about how much OW has to deal with, all the problems she has and how no one should mess with her at work
Whatever!!
OK, what's done is done. Just don't call her again. Remember, don't elevate her in importance by engaging her. One, she's not worth your time. Two, she is not the problem - your H is.
I think it's a good thing you got out for a couple of days.
And, I would NOT tell him how you got OW's work number. EVER. Got it?
Can you talk about this with your sister? Will she give you good advice?
What are you doing for you? What are you doing to put the focus on YOU? Have you tried to detach at all? It's understandable, but you are still way to invested in him, and it's just setting you up for these types of situations. As hard as it is, you have to begin the process of detaching. It's the only way to keep your sanity right now, and it does not mean you are giving up on your M. It means you are doing the right thing for YOU.
