I am acutely aware of how unhealthy and selfish it is for H to try to make it fun when we know they are going to be so disappointed.

He wants them to help him pack and it will be fun for them to have a room in the new place...with what money will he furnish this room????

He wanted to come by and give the kids a kiss, wanted to know if I wanted him to come give me a hug..."No, I don't, I really do not want to see you."

Aaaargh.

Should the kids be there when he moves his stuff out? I don't think so.