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Re: Marriage issues Jman #1798762 07/10/09 09:43 PM
Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 18,296 P Puppy Dog Tails Member
Puppy Dog Tails Member P Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 18,296	Oh, I was the CLASSIC "Nice Guy." Mr. Conflict-Avoider. Pleaser. Rescuer. Co-dependent to the MAX. I get my co-dependence from my mom's family (she is a recovering alcoholic -- 30 years sober! -- and so are several in her family), and my withdraw/poutiness from my dad. If you want to go back and read all about it, it's all here -- I used to go by "Chocolateeyes": Read All About It I discovered the affair in May 2007, and she ended it in August 2007, if you want to skip/look to the posts in that date range. Gotta run and take S12 to basketball practice -- ttyl! Puppy

Re: Marriage issues Jman #1799716 07/13/09 04:00 AM
Joined: Feb 2001 Posts: 10,805 sgctxok Member
sgctxok Member Joined: Feb 2001 Posts: 10,805	Jman... You are losing your focus and your shift is changing. Be very careful that that is what you want to do. sg sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001

Re: Marriage issues sgctxok #1799866 07/13/09 01:46 PM
Joined: May 2009 Posts: 216 FL J Jman OP Member
OP Jman Member J Joined: May 2009 Posts: 216 FL	Sg, I am going to wait on this...I have thought it out and I don't believe at this point it will be beneficial to bring this up..I need to keep doing my own thing and let the boat sail..I just get these thoughts in my head bc it feels like I want to hurt her like I am hurting so that is where this comes in is all.. M:35 W:36 M:10 yrs T:11.5 yrs C: B7, G3 ED: 3/09 DB: 3/20/09 Served 12-8-09 Still going through the process

Re: Marriage issues Jman #1801451 07/15/09 01:10 PM
Joined: May 2009 Posts: 216 FL J Jman OP Member
OP Jman Member J Joined: May 2009 Posts: 216 FL	Has anyone had luck with Solution Based Counseling over the traditional counseling? M:35 W:36 M:10 yrs T:11.5 yrs C: B7, G3 ED: 3/09 DB: 3/20/09 Served 12-8-09 Still going through the process

Re: Marriage issues Jman #1810244 07/29/09 02:32 PM
Joined: May 2009 Posts: 216 FL J Jman OP Member
OP Jman Member J Joined: May 2009 Posts: 216 FL	Can someone read my thread under emotional detachment in the forum I need help with my marital issues. I really need some support right now and guidance M:35 W:36 M:10 yrs T:11.5 yrs C: B7, G3 ED: 3/09 DB: 3/20/09 Served 12-8-09 Still going through the process

Re: Marriage issues Jman #1812006 08/02/09 04:47 AM
Joined: May 2009 Posts: 216 FL J Jman OP Member
OP Jman Member J Joined: May 2009 Posts: 216 FL	What is the deal about leaving the relationship...If the LBS tries to leave the relationship in order for a reality check for the WAS who is having an EA? Has anyone done this with sucess or unsucessfulness? M:35 W:36 M:10 yrs T:11.5 yrs C: B7, G3 ED: 3/09 DB: 3/20/09 Served 12-8-09 Still going through the process

Re: Marriage issues Jman #1812007 08/02/09 04:50 AM
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 6,350 Tampa, FL S Sara Member
Sara Member S Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 6,350 Tampa, FL	Yes. It is effective. Puppy is a good person to give you advice on this.

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