WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

Almostdonebut.......

Thanks for your thoughts and support

The interview went very well to the point they gave me a formal offer that was almost 5% higher than their preliminary discussion offer. They wanted me to start on Monday. I told them I will have to discuss with my wife and kids (I did tell them my wife left 2 months ago). It would be a no brained if it wasn't for the fact that the job is 3 hours away.

My wife did call me on my way home. The odd part was that I was talking to my friend who had told me her 89 year old grandmother had just be diagnosed with cancer. She was really emotional as she is also 16 weeks pregnant. I was trying to be symaptheic and supportive when all of a sudden my wife was on the phone. I then notice my cell had put my friend on hold and switched over to my wife's call. I'm not sure how long she was on the phone for but later that nite when she brought it up

She had asked who I was talking to and why did I sound so lovey dovey and playful an flirty. I too her that I don't know what she was talking about as I was just talking to one of my friends. She asked who was this friend and why was I talking that way. She said it didn't even sound like me. I told her about my friends grandmother so she was upset so I was just being supportive

Then she asked who are all these friends all of a sudden since her bomb. I told her that they were always there but my priorities had been wrong in the past. Since then i've reconnected with them without any reservations. Seems like she is the only one who is holding onto issues, but that's something to her to work throug

She then started asking about the job offer and my thoughts. I told her that this maybe a way for me to move on and start over. I would still see the kids every weekend since she stopped trying to find a reason. She said she never said that. She said still hadn't found a reason but will always be looking.

I told her that if she really thinks that we may work on it, that is something I need I know. I told her that I left my first job because I wanted to stay in the area because of her. I told her that she is very important to me but I can't put my life on hold hoping if she has truly moved on and not looking back.

She said that she has seen that I've changed as before age couldn't even stand to be in the same room with me. Now she can be friends and nice to me but she doesn't feel like she could be a wife to me. I told her that she's not being nice as she has taken the kids away from me 50% of the one and the most important person completely away from me an is in the process of permantly breaking apart the family and destroying everything we've built up together. How is that being nice?

She started crying at that point. I asked her what she was thinking about. She said she was just listening

I told her that it was gettig late and I know she has a busy day at work so goodnite. We both have a lot to think about and I hung up