Thanks so much for the advice! You're right - I just need to let go and let him figure it out for himself. It is really painful to see the turmoil in him, though. Glad I am not having to deal with that myself! I really don't know how he can cope at all.
And your explanation of what is going on in his mind made LOTS of sense. I think you are absolutely right. He THINKS that is what he wants (he guesses) but wants to be in control and be able to decide whatever he thinks he wants. He knows me well and knows I won't be the one to bail on him (so maybe that isn't such a good thing?:).
He told me four months ago he wanted out. He is still here, living in the house though not sleeping in our room. He told me initially he just hadn't had time to find some place to live. He has had plenty of time lately. Money is an issue but where there is a will there is a way. That tells me something. I think.:)
