Good day, 25 August. My son's birthday! (And my bday is 24 Aug)
Yep, I made it clear to Dan when he left on the trip that unless he took clear, real action to repair things, I was going to start distancing myself, for my own sake. So, that is what I am doing! Still not ready to file myself, but my moving the rest of him out of the house and putting up boundaries may piss him off enough to file, who knows?